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It is not fundamental difference between small vs big city. Options, people and culture are different in this city versus different city - no matter which one is larger.

Say you liked boardgames with friends. The new city have different people, the play different games, you dont like either new games or new people. Say you liked swimming and the swimming pools in new city are too full or otherwise dont suit you. You liked going to local beginner art/dance club, but new place dont have equivalent.

Moving to different place, especially when the environment changes comes with changes in lifestyle you may or may not welcome.



You also have the issue of the wealth divide. Its gonna be very difficult to hang out with locals when your annual income is more than they have made in a decade. Jealously alone will tear things apart, nevermind the near complete lack of overlapping life experience.

So you end up with the wealthy newcomers only interacting with other wealthy newcomers. Essentially a new culture in a place that had an established culture for years before hand.


I think that can happen, but doesn't have to. It depends if the person integrates into the local system. There are usually some wealthy people in the area to begin with, like doctors, lawyers, etc. If the community feels you are a part of it, then the wealth shouldn't be an real issue.


>depends if the person integrates into the local system.

That's just not going to happen though. The newcomers have nothing in common. Life experience, wealth, religion, ideology, none of if. And then the top it off by showing up and changing the place both intentionally and unintentionally. No wonder the locals don't want them around.


I can see that somewhat. Maybe you like surfing or salt water fishing and move from the coast to the middle of the country where it just isn't geographically possible, or laws in one area prohibit it (homebrew, guns, etc), etc.

But I don't really see location as a major factor in most hobbies. I grew up as a military dependent and can't remember giving up hobbies just because we moved. You can almost always find ways to continue them.




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